Reasons unacceptable in the light of death and pain

Many reasons for death are given to those who have lost someone close to them. Some of these reasons, while well intentioned, do not provide any comfort. Very often, people who suffer the loss of a loved one or friend are not ready to have legitimate answers given until later. It 'is completely natural, though, to ask "why?" This is in response to the sense of a lack of justification of "why bad things happen to good people." Asking is expected, but to get a satisfactory response is not expected. People dealing with pain can be prepared at a later time for philosophical explanations, but for the first weeks following the death is not a good time to give answers, which may as a result.
What are some of the answers that people sometimes give that are not useful when first asked, or even later? Because these reasons are not helpful? Let's look at some.

"God has permitted the loss or permission for my growth. Is it good for me."

This does not comfort. How can all this painful and difficult to accept a good thing for a person? How can you lose your child is for their benefit? The person is not prepared to accept this answer, but it is cold and not help them in their enormous sense of loss. It makes no sense when death seems "senseless" already.

"God is all love, or would have intervened."

This is not comforting either. Regardless of how we feel at that moment, the love of God is ultimately not to doubt. Scripture and experience personally by many who have experienced the same situation that one can bear to hear the love of God is very close during times of deep sorrow, even if it may take time for us to be there.

"Maybe God does not exist."

All this is really helpful? In times of hardship and death, we need to believe in something higher than us at any time. To reject God is to eliminate the possibility of ultimately pointless death (answering this question is, among other things, it may take up to heaven). To say that God does not exist means that there is no heaven or the possibility of ever understanding.
"God is not omnipotent or he could have stopped this."

Again, this does not help the grieving person. While a person suffering may not be able to believe in the ultimate power of God at the time of loss, is that power that will sustain us through times of pain When we are desperate for something bigger and stronger to support us. To deny the power of God is to deny all hope of ultimate victory over death. power of Jesus' on the greatest enemy, death, shows God is omnipotent.

"We get what we deserve. After all, we are all sinners and deserve death."

This is the opposite of the first. Considering that it implies that God sent death to teach a lesson, this basically says that God sent death as punishment for the sins of the deceased, or worse, to punish us for our.

For some reason, the question of God is often when someone dies. Maybe it's tied to our need to make sense of the senseless death final condition. There are good reasons, yet they can provide real comfort and hope to a grieving person. We will discuss in a future article.