Amati, the passage into death is not one to fear, but one that signals the completion of a stage in life so that another can begin. Because in truth, there is no such thing as death, but life goes on for souls in a growing process of exploration and learning. The journey is endless, as are the capabilities of each and every soul.
However, the emotions created by the loss or anticipated loss of a loved one is painful to those who remain behind, even when there was a long process to bring this event, and even when the loved one is very old or sick. Even then, the bonds of connection can remain strong and the difficulty of letting go can be equally strong.
What you must understand is that these ties of attachment emotions are not only for a period of time. Often, there are karmic ties of long standing that have created deep connections of energy that can be felt within the body. For this reason, both physically and emotionally true that the loved one feels like a part of himself. The energy ties create a sense of relationship over the years and more than life. They create a sense of sharing life with another, even if the other is away. When the other moves away or is about to start, you can feel like a piece of themselves is leaving as well. Actually, this is literally the case, to follow the transition from the physical plane, and sometimes even before it occurs, energy ties to those departing begin to be cut, not totally, but enough so that there is an experience of separation that can be felt in a physical energy. Sometimes, after the death of a loved one, this break can feel quite severe, as if there was a ripping away by force a part of themselves. These are the ties of energy are leaving the physical body of those who left. They are the bonds of love that can stay.
How then, given the degree of loss and attachment that can be felt toward those who are loved, you can let go with grace? The answer can not be a general, is different for each individual heart, and everyone loves her so unique. And yet there are components that are similar. The first lies in the desire to feel deeply the loss, sadness, or pain that may be involved, knowing that there is a lot of life and learning that is embedded in the letting go process. This process provides lessons that are deeply intimate that can open the heart to a greater life and greater love.
At the same time it is important to entrust to a departure from God and the unfolding future of their journey, as well as confidence in the continuation of its journey. This certainty of goodness, in the presence of death is a foundation to be able to let go with grace, and the absence of this insurance, more than anything else, enables the emotions of loss and despair to become critical without feeling softening that comes from faith in the future.
It 'also important to understand that the nature and timing of death is part of the plan of life for every soul, incorporated into the plan for each incarnation as much as any other feature is built into this does not mean that the plan is immutable, because there are still choices that remain to every soul with respect to time and as regards the mode of death. There are new decisions that can sometimes be carried out, particularly when a strong period of spiritual growth has taken place and new factors enter the picture. Yet, for many, the transition time has been chosen by the soul in accompaniment with the divine will and wisdom before reaching the ground, and despite the suffering that may be involved, the process itself is an important part of life - as great a teacher as any other aspect of life. Indeed, the passage through death is often of greater importance, both in the process of death itself and in the final moments of breath. Often, the soul learns during these moments may have been possible during a lifetime.
There is no cure for the sadness of loss is an intimate part of love. Yet the loss and pain may be accompanied by joy, because the heart is big enough to hold both. If life is a way of saying "hello" to the circumstances, people and events that drew a cross, then life is also and simultaneously a way of saying "goodbye" to those same circumstances, people and events so that something new can take their place. Yet in the midst of this, in the presence of constant change, what remains is love. For the bonds of love are durable and can not be separated by death. This is the ultimate comfort in the presence of death and dying - that the bonds of love can grow roots in the heart and, once planted there, they can stay forever.
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