Mother loses child drowned

The memory of losing a child can never be forgotten. the joy of a mother is giving birth to her child and the expectation is that the child she will survive. This is not always what happens and in my case, I came from work one day to get the dreaded news that my son two years, was drowned in a nearby lake.

It was too late for me to do something for my son. I felt so helpless. The babysitter had neglected to care properly for my son and my regret at the time of his recruitment. I felt guilty about putting my son in the care of someone who dropped the ball. Mother loses child drowned sounds like a title in a newspaper that I read about someone else. This can not happen to me, I thought. There were no warnings or preparation for such a tragedy. How do you manage when you are faced with such pain?

This happened twenty years ago but is still very fresh in my mind today. I played the episode again and again to see if there was anything I could have done differently to save my son. However, over the years, I have come to realize that one there was nothing I could do for him at the time, but today I decided to do something for him and share my story to keep alive the memory and another mother help that may be faced with the death of a child.

I would like to reassure you that the loss of a child's death is a finality that takes the breath of you. In other words, the pain is so overwhelming, that literally makes you feel as if your life is frozen. You will need more support than usual and a way to vent your pain. Your tears are not enough to erase the pain, but crying is your first defense and I would recommend a lot of crying in the early stages. It helps you to accept your loss. The denial can be devastating and lead to depression, so if you can take your reality and begin the process of mourning, we can accelerate the healing time.

Shock is common to almost all mothers in mourning as it was for me. It will not be able to identify with your loss initially. Your first reaction is shock and then you go through the phase of denial, the guilt phase and during the acceptance that your pain really begins. My recovery started when I accepted the certainty of my truth and want to talk about. I told everyone I could about my tragedy, and this really helped me understand my pain, keeping alive the memory of my son. I talked about the good times spent with him and tried to focus not only on his death.

I celebrated his short two years and eight months of life with me. People feel more comfortable to listen to good memories rather than bad memories. Therefore, I was able to reach more people and tell them that I was on a path of healing and asked if They Would allow me to continue my healing paying a listening ear.

I decided that in order to reach more people, I would write to the memory of my son and I wrote a book entitled "Facing the pain." I'm giving back some of the proceeds of the book to the Rowan Foundation, a support group for those bereaved by the loss of a loved one. Doing this has brought complete healing for me and I know that my son would be proud to know that he was remembered in a positive way. I encourage you to keep your memories dear in life making a difference in someone else's life and your healing will happen sooner than you can imagine.