Share your pain

Everyone arrives at a moment of grief, loss and sadness at some point in their lives. Pain is something that follows a loss. The pain can take many forms, may be established initially as numbness and later evolve to become a mixture of sadness, anger, confusion, dismay, despair, frustration nd. Losing a child causes pain that can be very painful. A parent who is emotionally and physically close to the child ends up losing its own identity with the loss of a child. This puts the mother in a sort of psychological trauma. May wonder how to bring their child - searching for them or remind them. They can also hear their voice or think they see them in familiar places. It takes a long time to adjust gradually to the great loss. The intense emotional pain that takes parents when they first talk about the loss of their child can make them feel if they ever survive this pain. Progress is made through the pain slowly as the feelings are worked through. Freud called this grief work.

Everyone reacts differently to the loss of a child. While some people seem to cope well with grief, others isolate themselves and become depressed and even consider suicide. Isolation is not a good thing if the person is self-determined and tough or spiritually independent mind. isolated people do not let that show their feelings and suppressed feelings lead to depression and other mental and physical disorders. Research shows that not a good thing to pretend that nothing happened when a loss as great as the loss of a child happens. Without appropriate help from others, parents are likely to feel discomfort, restlessness and anxiety. If you have more children, may fear for their lives. If the child who lost their only child, you might think to consider its future. It 'important they need someone to listen and ask questions and offer them not only words of comfort.

When the loss of a child that happens, parents need people to help them confront the fears of the future new and unknown. It 'very important that they are able to share their grief with close friends, relatives or advisers. It is said that in times of crisis like this, parents need a kind of emotional first aid - love and a shoulder to cry on. Parents should make the privacy and time to mourn the loss of their child. They also need people to support. There should be a balance between grieving alone and sharing grief. Some people find it helpful to spend fifteen to twenty minutes alone every day. This time, acts as a safety valve. It involved every emotion that have accumulated during the day. There are different ways of grieving in private: thinking, crying, praying, meditating, writing or drawing, talking to the dog! Keeping a diary helps the pain. Parents can write their feelings and memories of a loved one. They can then see how their grief changes over a period of weeks and months. This is proof of progress. If the diary is kept in a safe place the written memories become precious in the future. Alternatively, some people feel more comfortable with drawing pictures or photos to see their child. Sharing the pain with their loved ones to help people talk through their pain. They can relive their happy moments with their children talking to people or advisors, or by joining a bereavement support group.

Turning inwards for spiritual strength also helps to understand and deal with the pain. Spirituality helps a person to be grateful for things which more than sorry for what he lost. It also allows a person to accept that her son is now in the hands of God and happy in heaven.

Thus we find that different people have different strategies to deal with the pain. When then loss is as great as the loss of a precious child, parents need a balanced approach to deal with the pain. They need to have moments of isolation to work with their feelings, moments of prayer to help them acquire new knowledge and strength, and moments of sharing to have the support of family and friends. This mix is different for different people and when they find the right balance, find a way to cope with the loss of a child.