Deal with the painful loss of a loved one

I had to take a friend to the doctor today and as I sit here in the waiting room began to doze off to write this article. By the way, because waiting rooms in doctor's offices make people sleepy?

OK, let me get back on track. As I sit here, I heard a lady behind me talking about his past depression. He mentions he felt so lonely after her husband disappeared dear. In his words, 'her whole world collapsed.' She said that her husband handled everything in their marriage, money, bills and car maintenance. After his death became overwhelmed by all the finances and responsibilities of others who now had to face, not to mention the fact that he was still mourning the death of her husband.

This conversation I started to think how many people face the painful loss of a loved one.

Many times when a loved one passes, those left behind might not immediately feel the effects of that loss. Did not 'hit them' or 'sunk in' yet. Sometimes it takes a little 'for a person to react to the loss. Some may groped to remain strong or hide their feelings in front of others. But when the funeral was over and the family and friends have returned to their homes, the person may break down. Finally sinks in. Some sink into a depression so bad they close themselves off from the rest of the world. Take more time from work and also refuse invitations from friends and family.

Isolation and self-pity is never the answer. OK to cry. Even people in biblical times when tears have lost loved ones in death.

Examples of this are:

* King David who was distressed when her son died Absalon (2Samuel 18:33)

* Abraham lamented the loss of his beloved wife Sarah (Genesis 23:2)

* Even Jesus himself, who was a perfect man, 'gave way to tears' for the death of Lazarus (John 11:35)

So this shows that there is a sadness when we lose a loved one to death.

Then what is not to dwell on everything. Keep busy. Get involved in other things as a hobby. Distract you from loss. The memories will always be there, but should not be painful.

Another thing that can help manage your pain is the reading of the Bible. God, being God's love that he helps his people to endure the extreme sadness and grief that comes with grief. The Spirit of God helps us to have peace and trust in the wonderful future promised in his Word the Bible.

The Scriptures refer to God as 'the God of all comfort,' so you can be sure that will give us the necessary strength and let us not be overwhelmed by sad thoughts of the dead loved one.

Knowing all this should help us understand that we are not alone in experiencing the pain of our loss. Others have been through the same thing. Over time, the pain will subside. The world will not stop for our broken heart. Life goes on. Things will get better.

So knowing this and the fact that Jesus, perfect man, has also this should help us face the painful loss of a loved one.