Whether writing a eulogy and ensure they are emotional, but at the same time a step towards healing. It's never easy to put into words what someone's life mean to you and to sum up their life in a few minutes. Following the seven steps below you will be on track to create a memorable and heart felt eulogy.
Step One: Gather information. Write down as many personal notes of the deceased as possible. See pictures. Leafing through photo albums may remind of important qualities and memories of those who died. Answer some questions: What did your loved one truly happy? What inspired you to write this eulogy? What were your loved one's passions? What will you remember best about this person? Keep in mind that a eulogy is not a biography but more your thoughts and personal memories from your point of view. You can ask colleagues, friends and others for their stories and memories. You should see some repetition of notes and this will lead to the main theme.
Step Two: Begin to organize your content. Outline the eulogy in these steps:
I. A beginning to establish your theme.
II. A middle section to build your theme with personal stories, information, quotes, comments, phrases, poems and other content. This information should constitute 90% of the praise.
III. A short conclusion to summarize your thoughts and restate your theme.
Step Three: Work first on the central part (Part II). Once you have this part of the beginning and summary will be easy. Develop the outline by grouping similar themes from notes from Step 1. For example, you might want to collect all the results together. Merge the comments about the late philosophy of life.
Step Four: Organize the conclusion (Part III). A conclusion reminds the listeners of the theme and imprints the strong feeling you have for the loss. The key is to conclude an effective and quick. Here's an example:
"We all miss Jackie's sense of humor, his talent for knowing what is truly important in life and her famous chocolate chip cookies" (a little 'humor does not hurt until it is offensive to anyone ).
"Her example lives as an inspiration for us all to follow."
Step Five: Write the beginning of the eulogy (Part 1). This usually starts with a draw the attention. It sets the theme and can be in the form of a story, a poem, a figure of speech, words of a song. It will introduce the purpose and theme that you used when you began the process.
Step Six: Polish up. The best thing is to get away from it for several hours or overnight if possible. Working on it so it sounds like a conversation. You want to talk to the audience as naturally as possible.
basic tips: Keep it short, 4-8 minutes, 3-7 typed pages.
Type out with 14 pt type so it is easy to read.
Vary sentence length.
Number the pages.
Practice the eulogy aloud and her time.
Read to friends and family and get their feedback. Edit, if necessary.
Keep the content in good taste and keep it positive.
Step Seven: Delivering the eulogy. While normally speakers do not read word for word, because it is more than likely going to be emotional, do not be afraid to read word for word. In this way you will not leave out any key points or others wanted said.
If eye contact with members of the public will make you emotional, either try to keep your eyes on the page or just look over the top of the public towards the back of the room.
Feel free to pause, take a deep breath and drink some 'of water. Everyone will understand. They are emotionally distraught also.
Speak as naturally as possible, just as if you were to tell someone of your beloved. Speak up. It 's very important that you speak clearly and loudly so that everyone can hear.
Delivering the eulogy written as a memento. You can add memory to your chest and share it with others who want a copy.
Following these steps, writing and delivering a eulogy will become less stressful and more of a healing process.
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